Current Song: Phantom Planet – Lonely Day ; David Choi – That Girl
On my flight home from New York, I befriended a two year old girl who was essentially using me as a jungle gym at the airport lounge. After sharing some my tunes with her, she looked to me and asked me, “So… WHERE ARE YOUR KIDS?”
Dear Lord.
And so began the rampant downfall of the past week. Emerging a few days later, here I am jumping back on the horse, even if I am not a gymnast (watch Zoolander). I can attribute a lot of this to “the party list” and some damn good companionship. Before I go into that, I just wanted to note that I feel like I’m much more aware of when I’m dreaming now after watching Inception. My dreams are more intense and vivid and I tend to remember them a bit more.
I digress back to my past few days of darkness and what continues to push me through.
For those of that you who don’t know, I created a “party list” in college. Whenever I felt something was relevant or fun, I would blast out a text to my close friends. It was pretty efficient and fun way to set up parties and find a companion for events. Now, I’ve carried this seemingly juvenile list into the real world. However, instead of parties, I use the texts to keep up with people, ask them what color underwear they’re wearing, or to display my deep desire to have them around whenever I get a chance to drink. The best part of the list is that I can always get someone to respond whenever I’m feeling bored, tired, or sad. It’s a pretty good reminder that my friends are always around and care even though they might be spread all around the country or even sitting at work on their berries.
Michael Choi, my second round of defense, also made the trek up to my house for a good grown up sleep over. Michael, as many of you know, is one of my life friends. Since we were six growing up playing the cello, we’ve done almost everything together. Admittedly, we don’t talk too much and other people probably know us better than we know each other, but there is an unspoken bond that we have that is pretty laid back but intense at the same time. In attempt at dark humor, Michael and I decided to buy a handle of rum and write our last testaments. I guess this sounds completely morbid to some of you, but if you think about it we really don’t have much to give away at this point. For instance, Christine asked for my suspenders because unlike my other friends she realizes I’m not giving my cello away to just anyone. Just to name a few more bequeathments, Choi got my Star Wars card collection and I got his. Stephen Yu got my ties. Joyce got my notebooks and journals. And half way through the handle and barely into our wills, we looked at each other and pushed on to bed satisfied.
I’ve realized when we graduate, we draw this fine line between growing up and keeping our youth in tact. 40 may be the new thirty, but 20 can’t possibly be the new 10..or can it? I’m obviously joking, but it’s depressing to think that most of what we do now is centered around our futures instead of focusing on what’s good right now. When we shop many of us think, “Is this business appropriate?” or “How can I use this in the future”. I’ll be honest, my naivety makes me extremely excited to become a suit one day; However, when you are entering all this real world bullshit there are some things you need let go of and there are others that you don’t. I wish I could say I’m taking my own advice, but in most cases I feel like imprisoned myself within certain parameters that I don’t care to discuss right now.
To this point, I’ll at least tell you what is good right now. My generous friends and their eclectic collection of sexy underwear. The pimp cane I now carry when I’m walking around because of my sprained ankle. The opportunity to keep searching for my future and the ability to look back and forward with optimism. A lot of us are faced with a lot of seemingly big decisions in our lives, and as many of you told me and as many of you have been told, things will happen if they’re meant to. It’s hard to believe in that hackneyed cliche, but in the end it can and should help you focus on what’s good now. Cause in the real world – who knows – you could easily be getting a book, an old memento, or a poster from my will tomorrow.